2014… In just a few days, the clocks will turn around the globe making 2013 a memory and 2014 an opportunity.
Or at least that’s how I see it now after learning my lesson last year…
…It was December 31st 2012. My partner Amy and I along with some of our friends were settling in for a casual New Years Eve celebration to bring in the New Year at home.
There was good food, drinks and lots of laughs, but for some reason I was feeling dark about the coming New Year – 2013. I couldn’t quite place it but I really wasn’t looking forward to letting go of 2012 and embarking on 2013.
I’m usually quite a positive person, whose always up for an adventure and seeking forward progress, but for some reason I had a negative attitude toward 2013 and I really didn’t want to see it come. I had an overwhelming feeling of worry that was clouding what was supposed to be an otherwise fun night with friends.
The drinks flowed and the laughs carried on as I desperately tried to mask my negativity.
But then there it was, the count down. 10,9,8,7,6,5,4,3,2…. And whether I liked it or not – 1. 2013 was here and there was nothing me or my bad attitude could do about it.
Turns out, it was a hard year in some ways but also an amazing year in other ways.
The hard part came when Amy and I were forced to live most of the year a part pursuing our own goals and dreams that, as life would have it, put us in separate cities. Looking back, it was one of the biggest emotional struggles of my life with lots of tears and lonely nights. And though we have yet to see the end, there is light at the end of the tunnel now and we’ve survived as a strong, loving family. Looking back, the sacrifice we endured did create the amazing parts of our year full of career success we both worked hard to manifest in our lives.
So here I sit, exactly 12 months later, once again staring down the barrel of a New Year… and here it is again, the overwhelming feeling of emotion as I reflect on the year that’s about to end and the feeling of uncertainty of the year ahead.
Reflecting on 2013, I feel a small sense of resentment shadowed by a bigger feeling of happiness and gratitude for all I have in my life. And it just hit me. A life lesson I feel is so important that I must share it with you whether you already know it or not…
What I’ve learned is, the intention you set for the New Year and the attitude you harbor when that clocks strikes midnight DOES determine what kind of year you are about to have.
Because regardless of what good things or bad things that happen to you in the coming months, it’s how you choose to feel about them and deal with them that determines whether its going to be an amazing year for you or ‘bad’ year.
You see, the lesson is, we really do have full control over our lives. We may not have control of some things that happen to us externally, but we do have full control of how we choose to deal with those things internally. If you choose see the negative that will be your outcome, and if you choose positive that will be your experience.
Last year, I had a bad attitude about the New Year and that attitude is what created my tears and lonely nights, not the fact that I was living a part from the love of my life. I chose to be sad because of my situation and I chose to be lonely. I chose to see the negative in my situation rather than choosing to see the positive and having the confidence that it would all be ok. What would have changed my enjoyment of 2013 would have been to simply be grateful and thankful for what I did have instead of focusing on what I didn’t have. A simple change in my intention would have given me an entirely different experience throughout the year. I only realize this now through self-reflection.
It takes courage to self reflect. It’s not an easy thing to do. For me, reflecting on myself – my decisions, my actions, my intentions – is an uncomfortable process. I envy those people who say they feel no regret, shame or remorse in their lives. But then again, without a bit of regret or shame, how do we learn.
So I admit I’m ashamed of my bad attitude this time last year, but I’ve learned my lesson and I’m not letting that happen this year. This year is a new beginning.
Every year, we all get a chance for a new beginning. Every year there’s a small window of opportunity between Christmas and the New Year to reflect on who we were and what we did throughout the year that’s ending and the power to improve and set a new intention for the coming new year. For me this is the most powerful time of my year and this year I choose to empower myself as a positive leader of my own life to make 2014 the best year ever!
Happy New Year everyone! Take a moment to set your intention – choose a positive attitude and empower yourself to make your New Year the best of your life!
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